The Real Enemy of the Races in America

Jesus said, “I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” (John 10:10-NKJV) 

I really, REALLY, hate to weigh in on this subject.  Things are getting way out of hand but, unfortunately, it’s the reality of the America we live in today.  You would have to be deaf, dumb and blind (no offense intended) or living on another planet for me to believe you’ve not heard of the mess created from the trial of George Zimmerman who admittedly shot and killed Trayvon Martin in Sanford, FL.  So…I will not even begin to convey my thoughts on the case here by weighing evidence and declaring guilt or innocence.  Everyone is entitled to their opinion and even my friends and I don’t always agree.  Much of what I have to say here was posted on Facebook (FB) already.  But for the benefit of those who don’t follow FB (yep….they DO exist), here it is again.

The REAL enemy here is the twisted press reports and inflamed rhetoric of those who want to create racial war and hatred in America. Naivety in believing everything you hear in the news, and following everyone with an agenda (white, black, conservative, liberal, Republican, Democrat, etc.), can cripple us as a nation and destroy the progress we have made over the last 100+ years. The truth of white/black murder is found in the statistics on hand; in this case the FBI report from 2011. In it you find what the press refuses to acknowledge; that our worst enemies are those within our own racial demographics. Crime in the United States - 2011

Racism exists...it always will in this lifetime. It's a cancer that should be radiated and destroyed. But I refuse to believe the hype we are being fed (and that so many people want to believe) that every time there is a dispute between the races then it must be a result of racism. I for one love my black and white friends and relatives equally. I make no excuses for the mistakes of others in the past, but am not ashamed of who I am as a strong white conservative Christian male either. The singer, dancer and songwriter, Michael Jackson, was almost the same age as me.  I grew up listening to his music and watching his odd way of life over the years.  What made him resonate with people had nothing to do with his skin color, his heritage, his hyperbaric chamber, the monkey he owned or his extravagant lifestyle.  What made a difference was his music and the words that he put to paper and expressed to the public in such dramatic fashion.  So as I end…I end with words written by Michael that are most appropriate on this subject.  I hope you apply them to your own life.

Whether you choose to believe it or not, when I get irritated with someone it's because of their idiotic behavior and has ZERO to do with their skin color. That would be like saying I'm angry with you because you drive a green Mazda instead of the fact that you just cut me off on the freeway and almost caused an accident. To say otherwise is to insult my intelligence as a human being that bleeds red...just like every other race on the planet.

Celebrities, politicians, talk-show hosts and religious opportunists have become the devil incarnate when it comes to inciting fear, hatred and violence.  Network news executives who are driven by higher and higher ratings and corporate sponsorships are equally as culpable.  Please don’t read into what I’m saying here.  There are good people in all of the categories I’ve listed…but there are a large vocally charged collective who have this country by the gonads and are spinning tales as long and as imaginary as the “Hobbit” and “The Lord of the Rings” trilogy.

And the REAL devil is chuckling all the way to his hellish bank. 

Before you jump on the proverbial bandwagon of the biggest human hero on the topic of race and racism in America, take a look at the most important one of them all….yourself.  Decide what YOU truly and honestly believe about color, and then be strong and proud in that decision.  But be a leader from within…not a follower of sin.

Papa Chief

I’m starting with the man in the mirror

I’m asking him to change his ways

And no message could have been any clearer

If you wanna make the world a better place

Take a look at yourself, and then make a change

- Michael Jackson (1958-2009)

Telecommuting -- A New Way of Life

A lot has transpired since I last wrote.  I need to do better and be more consistent as I don’t wish for this blog to die a slow and painful death.  In any event, I’m back.  (Yay me!)

Much has been made of the decision recently by Yahoo’s new CEO, Marissa Mayer, to stop allowing employees to telecommute and work from home.  Well…significant news from me personally is my job change.  I accepted a new position that allows me the freedom to work from home.  Obviously, I don’t work for Yahoo. 

I’ve never worked from home before, so this is a new experience for me.  With my previous position, I commuted between 1-1/2 and 2-hours each day; that’s as much as 10-hours per week…or between 390-520 hours annually.  (See my blog of 18 July 2012) That’s a lot of road time.  That also put more than 10,000-miles on my truck each year at a cost of more than $2,500 in petrol.  That’s a lot of money and wear and tear on the old pick-up.

So, now I do this crazy thing called “sleeping in” (instead of driving in); get a decent night’s sleep and wake up refreshed; fix myself and my child bride a nice morning latte and perhaps a bagel to sit and relax with the morning news or out next to the pool enjoying the beauty of my oasis at home.  Tranquility is the theme before heading off the office to begin my workday.  My commute now takes approximately 15-30 seconds….depending on whether or not I have to pet the cats first.  Stress levels have plummeted!

I still get to travel, visit with old friends and new clients along the way, and enjoy the perks of a frequent flyer like expedited processing through TSA security and boarding first.  Oh yeah…an occasional “free” upgrade to first class is pretty cool too!

I really enjoy my new job and my new company and co-workers, even though they are far away from where I live.  (Hey…maybe that’s why I love them so much, eh?)  They have made me feel welcome, have bent over backwards to help me “learn” along the way, and are always professional without being stuffy, cold or impersonal.  And in case I forgot to mention…I haven’t worn a tie to work since mid-March!  And, oh yeah…I still work hard to keep the principle of Colossians 3:23.

But best of all, I have a loving wife who has been so supportive of this change.  She doesn’t particularly enjoy my travels (when she’s not along for the ride) but she understands that job satisfaction is so important to making life just that much sweeter.  With all my moves, job changes and travels, she has been my biggest champion and for that I am eternally grateful and blessed.  She keeps the home fires burning, and makes me look forward to walking through the door after a long day of airport woes to a beautiful home that is welcoming and relaxing.

After 35-years together….I think we both deserve it.  As the old gospel song says, life just gets sweeter as the days go by!

Papa Chief

For the Love of Christmas

I love Christmas!  For me, the sounds, sights and smells all come together in just the right way to fill my senses with the best that defines a religious and holiday experience.  Mind you, the commercialization drives me nuts like most people.  I hate Black Friday.  I get frustrated with all the advertising on TV and radio.  Burl Ives was a great guy….but did he ever sing anything anyone remembers beyond “Santa Claus is Coming to Town” and “Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer”?  And why did he look like a snowman anyway? 

Each year my lovely wife madly decorates our home and I tease her that it looks like Martha Stewart threw up on the inside of our house.  But I love it!  All the lights, the trees, the stockings, garland and a hundred little knick knacks sitting around do put a smile on my face.  Coming home after a long day at work, I enter to the sound of Kenny G playing a soulful Christmas tune while the angel atop the tree glows with ever-changing colors of light and the house is filled with the aroma of freshly baked cookies wafting through the air. 

Everyone has family traditions during the holidays, and our family is no different.  At some point, we always watch “National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation”.  Granted, it’s not the most “family friendly” movie on the shelf, but the irreverence is just what makes it such a hysterical joy.  I can identify every family member on both sides of the family aisle who are portrayed in that film.  And who doesn’t have a “Cousin Eddie” in the family anyway?  Poor Clark Griswold tries ever so hard to have one of those good old fashioned fun-filled Christmas’ surround by ‘normal’ family and friends…in spite of Eddie.  And I can identify with some of the poor guy’s failures to achieve the perfect Christmas celebration while battling the obnoxious snotty neighbors who already have the perfect little life.

Growing up, our tree had big hot light bulbs that melted the long strings of icicles that we hung on the REAL tree that always seemed to get a little bit brittle over time.  I’m sure we violated at least 23 fire codes with those decorations and dry tree….but luckily we survived.   

We always opened our gifts on Christmas Eve…a tradition we have continued with our own family.  I’m not really sure why other than we were just too anxious to wait.  We always had a nice Christmas dinner and the kitchen HAD to be cleaned up before opening presents.  I was always confused as to why we couldn’t “get on with it” with a dirty kitchen…but I digress. 

Daddy always sat in the big recliner while we listened to him read from the Bible about the birth of Christ.  Even though I was anxious, I always tried real hard to listen to the story and understand that Christmas was about the Savior of the world….not Santa and the next great toy.  I remember how proud I was the first time that Daddy let ME be the one to read the Christmas story.  We always prayed at the end and thanked God for our blessings in life before gingerly opening gifts being careful not to rip the paper and saving the bows.  (Hey…Santa was on a tight budget, OK?)

During a military deployment to the Middle East several years ago, I was lucky enough to spend Christmas living in a tent with nine other guys in the middle of the desert.  For the benefit of those who haven’t had such joy, let’s just say that I never felt so alone in my whole life.

My wife worked hard to send me packages and photos and things that kept me in touch with the family while I was away. In particular, I had a small Christmas tree about 12-inches tall with little battery operated multi-colored lights that I thought was pretty cool. It made for a great little night light and I loved lying in my cot just looking at the lights and thinking of my girls back home.  It made me smile.  She sent me a bunch of care packages too, including several Christmas gifts which I placed around the tree; ready to open when the big day arrived. 

And so in keeping with our family’s Christmas tradition, on Christmas Eve I sat on my cot trying rather unsuccessfully to not feel too sorry for myself while I opened my Bible and read the Christmas story once again. Then I bowed my head and thanked the Lord for the good things in my life and asked Him to protect my family who was pressing on without me back home.  Opening my eyes, I looked at my little tree with its twinkling lights and watched….as it slowly dimmed….and the lights went completely dark.  My last battery had died.  Staring into the darkness I said to myself, “Well….that pretty much sums it up right there, doesn’t it?”  So I promptly crawled into my cot and cried myself to sleep.

As sad (and true) as that story is, there are people all around the world who never get to experience the joys of Christmas and don’t have the luxury of family and friends during the holidays.  As Americans, we have soldiers, sailors, marines and airmen that will be alone for Christmas again this year and families separated by thousands of miles from those they love the most.  Some will spend their last Christmas on earth in the last place on earth they want to be.  I consider myself to be one of the fortunate ones. 

As you work to keep those restless kids from wetting themselves with anticipation of opening gifts…be sure to say a prayer for those who are alone this year whether at home or abroad.  I pray that their batteries will be fresh and take them into the new year with new hope for a better day and that God will grant them the joy of being with family and friends once again very very soon.

Remember…Jesus is the Reason for the Season!

Papa Chief 

35-Years in the Making

My wife and I just celebrated our 35^th wedding anniversary on November 26^th.  We were both kids when we married…I was 18 and she was an older woman of 19.  As with most marriages, it’s had its ups and downs and as she likes to tell folks, “We’ve been happily married for 30-years”. 

In honor of the woman who has put up with my antics for that long, I took her on a whirlwind cruise to the eastern Caribbean aboard Royal Caribbean International’s “Brilliance of the Seas”, and then surprised her by coordinating the renewal of our wedding vows.  It was an awesome and emotionally moving experience for us both.

I was really surprised at just how nerve wracking I found the whole vow renewal thing to be.  I mean, who would have thought that after 35-years I’d be nearly as nervous as I was the day we said, “I do” the first time?  But I was.

The ceremony was a simple but elegant affair with one of the ship’s officers officiating, beautiful white roses, chocolate covered strawberries instead of cake and a champagne toast.  The only others in attendance were 2 photographers and some guy we referred to as the “wedding lurker”; hanging outside of the closed off area and taking photos through the window on deck.  Before it was over, everyone was crying like they were watching the end of the movie “Phenomenon”…including the wedding lurker.

My uncle always referred to my aunt as his “child bride”; a term of endearment that I always admired.  And so I salute my own child bride with this article.  A woman who has given life to four beautiful daughters.  A woman who has followed me half-way around the world and back while I pursued my military career.  A woman who, when we were broke, was willing to work two jobs and take care of 6-kids (a couple of rentals in there) to make sure we had a van to haul everyone around and a roof over our head at night.   

There’s an attitude among a few liberal career women and chauvinistic men in our country that anyone who chooses to make homemaking as their career is less of a success in our world.  Hillary Clinton once touted her working woman career status and famously snapped back at reporters that she could have just “stayed home and baked cookies and had teas”.  More recently, the feministic hatred of homemakers was even felt by Mitt Romney’s wife, Ann, during the recent Presidential election when another Hilary (Rosen) attacked her by saying, “You know what, she’s never actually worked a day in her life”.  

Balderdash!  My wife has worked hard her whole life and taken care of things most people would cringe at doing.  Not only that, she is intelligent and thought-provoking, organized and driven in her “chosen” profession.  Her standards are high, expecting nothing but the best out of herself.  She is tenacious when necessary while possessing social grace when appropriate.  Bottom-line….she is a strong woman tempered by experience and by any measure a complete SUCCESS! 

I feel fortunate to call this woman my wife.  She deserves honor and respect for all she has endured and the lives she has enriched.  I’m proud to have her arm in mine and her gift of a ring on my finger. 

A young couple on the cruise noticed our formal attire and flowers and the young lady asked a question I’ve heard many times, “What’s the secret to a long and happy marriage?”  For me the answer is simple.  Finding a good woman who you love and adore and who reciprocates that love….and then, not screwing it up by being stupid.  That last part is sometimes the hardest.

Papa Chief

Baseball - A Game for Life

I’m a huge St. Louis baseball fan. The Cardinals have been part of my life since I can remember.  Even though I didn’t come from a particularly sports-minded family growing up, I learned to embrace the sport of baseball.  I don’t think any of my immediate family really understands.  I’m not a crazy, paint your face, statistic spouting, obnoxious in-your-face type of baseball fan.  I’m just a regular guy who enjoys the game. 

Yes, I have the requisite Cardinal paraphernalia….the shirts, the hats, the pins and ties I wear to work to irritate my Cubs fan boss.  My favorite is the mini Fred Bird that lounges on the bed and comes out for the games on TV and the occasional stadium visit.  He makes me smile when I look at him. 

When I was around 7 or 8 years old we lived about 50-miles west of St. Louis.  I can remember Dad telling me that every year he would receive a FREE pass into Busch Stadium….something about him being a church pastor.  But…to my knowledge he never attended a game.  As a kid, that just didn’t make any sense to me. 

I didn’t get to go to my first professional baseball game until I was a young adult in my 20’s.  Cheap nose-bleed seats, cold blustery day, and mesmerized by the whole experience.  I’ve been hooked ever since. 

For those who are not baseball fans, trust me.  I get it.  Who wants to sit for 3-hours in the stands with a bunch of screaming people eating terrible food and freezing your gluts off during a season opener in April?  And Lord forbid there’s a pitching duel and no runs……BORING!!!!!!! 

But that’s just the attraction for me.  To me, the love of the game is the camaraderie of the crowd, the crazy mascot, the bad food, the bigger-than-life experience of the stadium, and the strategy of the game itself.  Especially the strategy.  How do you know when to pull the pitcher?  How does the manager decide where to place the players for the next batter?  How does the runner make the perfect bunt and what does it take to fake the pitcher out to steal a base?  And then, throw in the unpredictable factors like an injury, a bad baseball hop or just a bad call by the officials. It all makes for fabulous drama!

I used to umpire softball and baseball for the youth, high school and college leagues.  One day I was umpiring a game of 4 and 5-year old girls softball.  If you’ve not had that experience then trust me, it’s well worth going to watch.  Absolutely NOTHING happens like anyone plans.  The coach of the “Bumble Bees” was having particular problems with his outfielders not paying attention to the game.  At one point, the coach asked for “time” and proceeded out to centerfield.  After a short exchange, the girl reached into her pocket and handed over….a bag of Skittles. 

Life is much like a good baseball game.  How do we know what career to work towards?  How much money should I save up to buy my first house?  What kind of education is important?  What’s the secret to landing that great job?  What do I need to do in order to get that pretty girl to say “yes” to marriage?  How do I hang on to a life that I love, but can so easily be turned upside down by the unpredictable?  How much money do I need for retirement? What kind of advice should I give my kids?  What kind of legacy do I want to leave my family when I die?

Small decisions in baseball can have a dramatic outcome in the game.  An outfielder moving one step to the right for the next batter could cause him to miss being able to field a hit in time resulting in a run. Throwing a fast ball low and inside on a batter could be perfect for the near golf swing that sends the ball over the outfield wall. 

Life is the same way.  When the pitch comes how we react can be life changing.   Making the wrong choices can have life altering results.  We all want to hit the home run.  But the reality is that we oftentimes strike outs. 

Miguel Cabrera of the Detroit Tigers recently became the first player to win a Triple Crown since Carl Yastrzemski in 1967, and yet, he “only” carried a .320 batting average.  In other words, he only hit the ball successfully less than 1 out of 3 times at bat.  And yet, that’s Hall of Fame material! 

When they fail to connect and go through a streak of missed opportunities, a good baseball player returns to the batting cage…gets advice from the batting coach…and never gives up. 

When life throws you a curve ball and you strike out, the result can be heartbreaking.  But it doesn’t have to be devastating or career-ending.  Go back…evaluate your technique…seek out good advice…study up on your mechanics…and get back out there and swing again. 

Just as in baseball, to be good in life you have to hone your skills and practice, practice, practice!  You’ll fall and make mistakes along the way, but each experience will make you better.  Dwelling on the missed opportunity will not make life any better.  Reach for the home runs in life, even when you strike out.  Eventually you’ll end up in the Hall of Fame if you persevere.

Papa Chief

The Rest of the Story

In my previous blog, I spoke of my fear of growing up to be drafted and sent to Vietnam.  I also had a fear that my big brother would also end up being sent and would die.  My brother is 9-years older than me, and was ripe for selection in 1969.  He was attending college at the time and when he read my blog he shared his own perspective of that same time period. 

 

On Dec 1, 1969, the U.S. conducted a live broadcast of the draft lottery on TV.   I’ve included a link to that same broadcast as presented that night.  CBS News Lottery Draft - 1969  I could only imagine the anticipation and fear of young men all across the country as they witnessed that event.  But with his permission, I present to you my brother’s own account of his thoughts and feelings.  His memory of that day is far superior than my own.

“Don't know if you we're ever aware of the end of the traditional draft system, to a "lottery" system during the Vietnam War. The purpose was to more fairly draft men for service.  It had been made widely known that the "lottery" numbers would be drawn on live TV (there were only the three major networks) on the evening of Dec. 1, 1969.”

“I was living in the men's dormitory, and we all gathered in the "TV Room" to watch. (No TV's allowed in dorm rooms.) The entire dorm population was there with most having to stand.  Birthday dates were drawn out of a large bowl and announced. The birth dates were placed in the sequence drawn beside the numbers 1-366.  The first date drawn would be the first men called up for the draft as need and so forth.  Expectations stated beforehand were that the first hundred numbers picked could expect to receive draft notices in a relatively short time. Numbers 101-200 might receive notices at a future time. Numbers 201-366 were considered fairly safe.”

”The TV room was completely silent as the drawing began. No one spoke or showed any emotion. As someone's birth date would be selected in the first group of 100 we would see them silently and quietly leave the area.  Many guys immediately began packing their belongings into their cars throughout the night and early morning, then simply drove away, never to be seen or heard of again. I clearly recall watching the exodus out of my third floor dorm window.”

“It was one of the most emotional experiences I've ever been witness to and affected by. It was the saddest day I ever spent during my education. The silence and sense of doom was like a smothering fog over the whole campus. Those of us left behind of course breathed a sigh of relief for our own good fortune. I had drawn a 206 and posted that number on my dorm room wall as a reminder of what had just happened.”

“As my college education continued over the next three years, I also recall young men who had completed their military service in Vietnam and returned to enroll in school.  I distinctly recall how quiet, unassuming, and seriously studious they were.  They were never rowdy, and never goofed around, and just seemed generally more mature than the rest of us.  They had already grown up, and seen things I never would.”

Thanks to my big brother for sharing that experience.  As I watched the video clip…suddenly there it was…MY birthday; July 7.  Although I was too young to have been drafted, my brother’s recollection of that event made my imagination of how I would have felt that night even more real.  My birth date was lottery number 050.  I would have been in the first group.

Whether by providence, luck or random chance, some were called…and some were not.  I am a product of an all-volunteer military and was proud to serve.  In the end, my brother was not called, and did not die as I had feared.  For that I am thankful.  I pray we never have to force military service on anyone ever again. 

Papa Chief